One of the questions I hear most often in coaching and seminars goes something like this: “The life I have been living does not stimulate me any more. I sense that I have outgrown my relationships, or job, or lifestyle. I feel bored,and stuck. I know there must be more for me, but I don’t know how to reach or manifest it. I am in a kind of void, lost in space.”
Imagine that you are at a party in one room of a large house. You have been in this room for a while, and the people and conversations that once stimulated now feel stale. You step outside the room into the hallway, where you hear voices from another room down the hall. Unlike the room you just left, these conversations are stimulating, and you feel drawn to them. But the room is a distance away and it will take you some time to get there. What can you do in this kind of limbo position?
1. Tap into faith. Trust that your discomfort is temporary; it has, in fact, motivated you to reach for more. The same universe that gave you the desire to upgrade, and the hint of new possibilities, will give you the ways and means to achieve what you want. Let divine order and divine timing guide you.
2. Focus on the attributes of the room you are headed toward, and live them. Embody the traits that match what you wish to draw unto you. When you are aligned with your goal in word, feeling, and action, the Law of Attraction will accelerate you joining with everyone and everything that belongs to you by right of your consciousness.
3. Just keep going. Don’t stop or turn back because the old and familiar seems safer. Take baby steps if they feel easier. When you gain momentum through conscious, chosen movement, you will hasten your journey.
Perhaps you have some old relationships you have outgrown, and you feel guilty about not cultivating them anymore. Remember that there is no private good. If something is truly good for you, it will be truly good for others. Maybe your old acquaintances will find people who match their interests more than you do. The universe functions in perfect balance, joining people who belong together.
One hot summer day Dee and I went to a restaurant where we were seated beneath an air conditioning duct. After a while, we felt pretty cold. We wanted to ask the waiter to reseat us, but we had already been served our appetizer and we felt guilty to bug him. But we asked anyway, and the waiter kindly complied. A few minutes later an elderly couple was seated at the table we vacated. As soon as they sat down, the man breathed a deep sigh of relief and said, “air conditioning—just what I needed.”
There is a right place for each of us. To claim it, we must live authentically, in harmony with our values and intentions. There is a new room down that hall that we would all like to enter. And so we will.
